Secret Spending

I was reading a magazine article about a topic that many people do not discuss, why, cause its a secret. The secret is married couples who secretly spend money. As soon as spending money is mentioned the finger pointing goes straight to the female but that is not always the case. Many men have secret addictions that require spending money without their wife knowing. No matter who is doing the spending it can cause a good marriage to go sour. A survey was done and 80% of married couples have dealt with this in their marriage. Just because majority of people think something is okay does not mean it is.

There are some solutions to this problem. The first solution is to be open and honest with each other. If a spouse has a secret addiction that is costing the family money (all addictions cost something) then it is time to be honest. It might hurt but in the end it will be better. The couple can seek Godly counsel to put the marriage on track. A wise person seeks counsel.

Another solution for a couple who just wants to have money for themselves is to reach a compromise for an allowance. Some people call this "mad money". It allows each spouse a little freedom.
I hope this blog will help married couples improve in their marriages. This is the time of year when most spending takes place. It is also that time of year that causes depression and addictions to take place. During these times remain thankful and positive. Remember communicate with people who will help lift up and not tear down.