Bullet Proof Your Marriage

The time of year when many vowels are being exchanged is here. Happily engaged couples are promising each other to be husband and wife, forever. In the their hearts they know they can spend the rest of their life with the person no matter what happens, at least until the it happens. Everyone expects their marriage to be bullet proof with out putting on a bullet proof vest there is nothing wrong with that but beware bullets will fly at your marriage. I am not talking about the prenuptual agreement which is something that bullet proofs the divorce. I am talking about something that will prevent ever needing a prenuptual agreement. It is know the roles of the husband and wife in the marriage. Every couple is different. In some marriages the husband handles the money better than wife and in others it is the opposite. Sometimes the husband can cook better than the wife so he should be responsible for the meals and maybe even grocery shopping. Yes, things happen and from time to time roles will have to be switched. However, an initial layout of roles and also boundaries could prevent a lot of arguements in the blissful years to come. A boundary, for example, could be set about the spouse going out with friends. It could be as small as never going to sleep with dirty dishes in the sink. It could be do not tell in-laws about everything that goes on in the house. It could be boundaries to how your spouse handles the opposite sex in situations. Boundaries are things to go over so that the spouse knows the limit to making the other ready to blow. It is a preventive measure. Boundaries will probably be broken and also change. Communication is key to when a boundary has to change. Do not expect the spouse to read your mind but communicate saying, "Honey you have crossed the boundary. Remember I do not like it when you make large purchases over $100.00 without telling me." Hopefully when the boundaries are set it will bring the couple close together. It will give them insight on what to expect from each other. The boundaries will prevent the first couple of years from being many misunderstandings. It will bullet proof the marriage.