The scripture above is not just for men to find a good wife but for women to understand how important it is to be a good wife. Being a good wife means that you are a blessing from God to the right man. God is going to use you to be a helpmate to your husband.
Don't let the word helpmate fool you. Helpmate does not mean maid but being supportive physically, spiritually and mentally. When your husband is having a bad day don't nag him about everything that he did wrong but be the one he can come too for encouragement. Nagging will push him away to possible shut down his communication to you.
Always keep in mind you are your husband's blessing, not his curse. Find ways to continually bless your husband. Below are 3 ways to bless your husband:
1. Allow Him Space When women come home from work or if the woman works from home, at the end of the day we are ready to share. Majority of men are not built like we are. Men have to compartmentalize. They have to think things through and figure out a solution. Most men are problem solvers and protectors therefore they do not want to bring anything to the table without knowing what to do. If your husband is standoffish when he first gets home from work, allow him that space to think. He isn't mad at you or doesn't think less of you. He has a million things on his mind that he has to sort through. Now, is not the time to pile on another million things. He will come to you when he is ready.
2. Hear His Heart When your husband finally does open up to you, listen. Do not listen in offense, do not listen to respond, but listen to understand. Respond with sincere love and a soft voice. Do not get frustrated if he repeats something or ask you to repeat something you've told him 100 times. Be patient, which is one of the definitions of love. Remember, men have emotions too and they can get just as emotional as women. However, men express it differently so be mindful of this while listening.
3. Keep His Love Tank Full This is very important as a wife to keep your husband's emotions full. Meaning, find ways to continually help your husband feel loved. Men need love just as much as women. Find out what your husband receives from as love. It could be spending time together, watching his favorite sport with him, keeping the house clean or anything. Ask your husband, "What can I do today to show you I love you?" If you have never done this, do it. It works. Then go back to number two and listen. If he says, "I don't know" then ask more specific questions, like do you feel loved when I____? He will think about it and realize he does feel loved when you do that and keep asking specific things until he starts naming things on his own. There is nothing wrong with writing these things down as a reminder to them.
Being a wife is not just getting married and having babies but it is something God created. It that takes examining and growing continually. Marriage is the most unselfish thing that a person can do. Knowing that marriage is not about self will help you be a blessing to your husband.
1. Allow Him Space When women come home from work or if the woman works from home, at the end of the day we are ready to share. Majority of men are not built like we are. Men have to compartmentalize. They have to think things through and figure out a solution. Most men are problem solvers and protectors therefore they do not want to bring anything to the table without knowing what to do. If your husband is standoffish when he first gets home from work, allow him that space to think. He isn't mad at you or doesn't think less of you. He has a million things on his mind that he has to sort through. Now, is not the time to pile on another million things. He will come to you when he is ready.
2. Hear His Heart When your husband finally does open up to you, listen. Do not listen in offense, do not listen to respond, but listen to understand. Respond with sincere love and a soft voice. Do not get frustrated if he repeats something or ask you to repeat something you've told him 100 times. Be patient, which is one of the definitions of love. Remember, men have emotions too and they can get just as emotional as women. However, men express it differently so be mindful of this while listening.
3. Keep His Love Tank Full This is very important as a wife to keep your husband's emotions full. Meaning, find ways to continually help your husband feel loved. Men need love just as much as women. Find out what your husband receives from as love. It could be spending time together, watching his favorite sport with him, keeping the house clean or anything. Ask your husband, "What can I do today to show you I love you?" If you have never done this, do it. It works. Then go back to number two and listen. If he says, "I don't know" then ask more specific questions, like do you feel loved when I____? He will think about it and realize he does feel loved when you do that and keep asking specific things until he starts naming things on his own. There is nothing wrong with writing these things down as a reminder to them.
Being a wife is not just getting married and having babies but it is something God created. It that takes examining and growing continually. Marriage is the most unselfish thing that a person can do. Knowing that marriage is not about self will help you be a blessing to your husband.
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