How to Overcome Loneliness in Marriage

Being married is the best gift on earth, is what bride and grooms think on their wedding day. Ask this to a married couple who have been married a year but can not seem to connect on anything. Their answer will probably not be marriage is a gift, but the opposite. They feel lonely in the marriage.

Loneliness in the marriage can be resolved not by cheating or arguing but by working. Anything you want to be great takes work. Make an effort to spend more time with your spouse. If he/she is in a room watching a television show you don't particularly like, go watch it anyway. Don't just watch it but cuddle, fix snacks, do something to get involved. Spend time talking about each other's day before going to sleep. Talk about plans for the next day or the next week. If your spouse is interested in something you do not know that much about, learn it. It is a good way to keep conversations open. Just because you are married does not mean you and your spouse are always going to have the same interest but there is nothing wrong with being able to have a conversation about the interest. If the spouse is hesitant to work on helping you feel not so lonely, try to find your own interest.

Remember, you are still an individual. Yes you and your spouse become one but you are unique. Start doing things that you like so that your spouse will take interest in you. Share it with your spouse. This will actually give more conversation with your spouse as you exchange interest. Remember, to love your spouse but do not expect them to be perfect. They are human, they will not always be there to fulfill your every void. When this happens depend on true love that comes from God. His love will never return void. When you put God's love first, everything else will fall into place. The loneliness in your marriage will not seem so lonely, then you will begin to find your interest. You spouse will be happier also because as you begin to put God's love first, pray for your relationship with your spouse. God will honor your prayers then watch your marriage improve.