Listen to the Warning: A Short Story

The siren went off but everyone ignored it. It was a sound that they were used to hearing in the old office building. The siren warning for tornadoes went off several times a week. The owner of the building had a scheduled time for it to be fixed. There was not a cloud in the sky one day on a beautiful Spring day. The siren went off no one moved from their desk but one person, a woman who went to the window just to make sure nothing was going on outside. She did not see any rain but noticed it was getting cloudy. She went back to work not concerned about the clouds. A couple of hours later the siren went off again, no one moved. The woman hesitated but decided she should look out of the window again. She opened the curtain and in the distance headed toward the building was a tornado. She yelled at the top of her lungs, "TORNADO!!" The other employees stopped and ran toward the window. Everyone hurriedly ran back to their desk, grabbed their belongings and rushed to safety just in time. After the tornado had tore through the office with barely any rooms left standing, everyone was still alive. Everyone thanked the woman for saving their life. One co-worker asked her why she decided to check today for the siren. The woman responded, "In my prayer time God told me to not ignore the warning signs in every area of my life. I am working on listening to God more. So I decided when the siren went off I was going to check. I praise God right now." 



Always take heed to warning signs that God gives us. He loves us and He knows what is best for us. If God is warning you to do or not to do something be obedient. There is a reason He is sending those signs, He has our best interest in mind.

3 Ways To Be A Blessing To Your Husband

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD." Proverbs 18:22 

The scripture above is not just for men to find a good wife but for women to understand how important it is to be a good wife. Being a good wife means that you are a blessing from God to the right man. God is going to use you to be a helpmate to your husband. 

Don't let the word helpmate fool you. Helpmate does not mean maid but being supportive physically, spiritually and mentally. When your husband is having a bad day don't nag him about everything that he did wrong but be the one he can come too for encouragement. Nagging will push him away to possible shut down his communication to you. 

Always keep in mind you are your husband's blessing, not his curse. Find ways to continually bless your husband. Below are 3 ways to bless your husband:

1. Allow Him Space  When women come home from work or if the woman works from home, at the end of the day we are ready to share. Majority of men are not built like we are. Men have to compartmentalize. They have to think things through and figure out a solution. Most men are problem solvers and protectors therefore they do not want to bring anything to the table without knowing what to do. If your husband is standoffish when he first gets home from work, allow him that space to think. He isn't mad at you or doesn't think less of you. He has a million things on his mind that he has to sort through. Now, is not the time to pile on another million things. He will come to you when he is ready.
2. Hear His Heart When your husband finally does open up to you, listen. Do not listen in offense, do not listen to respond, but listen to understand. Respond with sincere love and a soft voice. Do not get frustrated if he repeats something or ask you to repeat something you've told him 100 times. Be patient, which is one of the definitions of love. Remember, men have emotions too and they can get just as emotional as women. However, men express it differently so be mindful of this while listening.
3. Keep His Love Tank Full This is very important as a wife to keep your husband's emotions full. Meaning, find ways to continually help your husband feel loved. Men need love just as much as women. Find out what your husband receives from as love. It could be spending time together, watching his favorite sport with him, keeping the house clean or anything. Ask your husband, "What can I do today to show you I love you?" If you have never done this, do it. It works. Then go back to number two and listen. If he says, "I don't know" then ask more specific questions, like do you feel loved when I____?  He will think about it and realize he does feel loved when you do that and keep asking specific things until he starts naming things on his own. There is nothing wrong with writing these things down as a reminder to them.

Being a wife is not just getting married and having babies but it is something God created. It that takes examining and growing continually. Marriage is the most unselfish thing that a person can do. Knowing that marriage is not about self will help you be a blessing to your husband.

A Man With Vision

My husband and I love to laugh together. We often go out have a great time with friends or a date night to ourselves. We love to enjoy life.

A part of enjoying life is talking to each other about deep thoughts also. We spend time talking about God and ministering to each other. He ministers to me most of the time and I listen. We attend church together, 98% of the time the Pastor will say what my husband and I talk about somewhere in his message. I love it when that happens. It is God showing us that our life up with God's will. It is confirmation from God letting us know we are on the right track.

Single ladies when choosing a mate make sure that it is someone who lines up with what you believe. You will have to submit to him. Submit does not mean you are a slave but as a married woman you will come under his vision. If he does not have a vision or you do not agree with his then do not marry. There is someone out there you can line up with.

Single men,create a vision for yourself, for your life. When you find your soul mate she will know that she can follow you because of your vision. If you do not have a vision for your life then get one. Without a vision there is no success and a spouse will have a difficult time submitting to you.

Healthy Leads to Healing: My Testimony

Allergies have always hindered me from enjoying this beautiful earth. I enjoy doing things outside but my allergies were always a thorn on my side. I would always have to carry around tissue, which was gross. I could not go anywhere with it. I depended on tissue like it was a million dollars. Not only was the tissue annoying but I talked like I was an operator 24/7. I had to take medicine every night just to breath. The medicine would make me so tired the next day as well as dehydrated. I would be miserable at job only to restart the cycle over again. I went to an allergist who said I was allergic to everything that grows. I started getting allergy shots but those were horrible. Getting stuck twice a week on my lunch break was not how I wanted to spend the next two years of my life. After two months of no improvement I stopped doing the shots. I began to pray and read scriptures on healing. I received peace that God was going to heal me. However I did not change my bad, unhealthy habits. I was not working out, I was not eating healthy nor was I taking vitamins. I was praying and believing but there was more God wanted me to do. I had to do my part. I began to workout and eat healthier. I stood on God's promist that I was going to be healed. I kept pushing to take care of my self. Slowly but surely I saw my health improve. Now I can say I am health and healed byt the grace of God. If you are looking for healing believe and receive that God is a healer. You also must take care of yourself. Be healthy spiritually and physically. The two combined will lead to a health lifestyle.

How to Overcome Loneliness in Marriage

Being married is the best gift on earth, is what bride and grooms think on their wedding day. Ask this to a married couple who have been married a year but can not seem to connect on anything. Their answer will probably not be marriage is a gift, but the opposite. They feel lonely in the marriage.

Loneliness in the marriage can be resolved not by cheating or arguing but by working. Anything you want to be great takes work. Make an effort to spend more time with your spouse. If he/she is in a room watching a television show you don't particularly like, go watch it anyway. Don't just watch it but cuddle, fix snacks, do something to get involved. Spend time talking about each other's day before going to sleep. Talk about plans for the next day or the next week. If your spouse is interested in something you do not know that much about, learn it. It is a good way to keep conversations open. Just because you are married does not mean you and your spouse are always going to have the same interest but there is nothing wrong with being able to have a conversation about the interest. If the spouse is hesitant to work on helping you feel not so lonely, try to find your own interest.

Remember, you are still an individual. Yes you and your spouse become one but you are unique. Start doing things that you like so that your spouse will take interest in you. Share it with your spouse. This will actually give more conversation with your spouse as you exchange interest. Remember, to love your spouse but do not expect them to be perfect. They are human, they will not always be there to fulfill your every void. When this happens depend on true love that comes from God. His love will never return void. When you put God's love first, everything else will fall into place. The loneliness in your marriage will not seem so lonely, then you will begin to find your interest. You spouse will be happier also because as you begin to put God's love first, pray for your relationship with your spouse. God will honor your prayers then watch your marriage improve.

How to Keep the Fire Burning in Marriage

Sex is everywhere for single people. It is easy access with the help of social media. Are single people the only ones who have sex? What happens to sex when people get married?

It seems like once people say I do, honeymoon for a few months, the sex is over. The sex can become like a chore instead of intimate enjoyment with the spouse like it was in the single days. When sex becomes like a chore in a marriage it will start to be boring and frustrating. The passion is lost.

Eventually the married couple will stop having sex. The temptation to get sex outside of marriage becomes strong.

How to keep sex in the marriage:

 -Talk about needs and fantasies. 

Likes and dislikes. However timing is everything. Do not wait until it is time to be intimate, talk about it before. Talking about is also a form of fore play to get in the mind set of having sex.

 -Research. 

There is nothing wrong with kinkiness in the bedroom while married. Single people should not be the only ones having wild sex especially since sex was created for married people as a form of intimacy to become one. Get kinky by researching positions and other options to bring to the table to spice up the mood.

-Change of environment, not the person. 

Be spontaneous. After the kids are in bed and the spouse is watching television on the couch, get intimate in the living room. There is nothing wrong with having spontaneous to spice it with an anytime, anywhere attitude. Scheduling sex can sometimes kill the mood. Last but not least enjoy. Enjoy each other's bodies. Enjoy the time spent together in a private moment, expressing the passion toward each other physically.

Your Purpose is in Your Passion

Look for what you are passionate for and it will lead you to your purpose. I have heard many stories of people who quit their 8 to 5 money making job to start their own business. Even though the job was a stable income people still quit because they were miserable. They wanted something more out of life.

 By no means am I suggesting everyone quit their job but sometimes you have to move backwards, adjust then move forward. They discovered a passion for something and went for it. It might be hard at first but if your passionate about it you will stick with it.

How to know what you are passionate about? Ask yourself, what is the one thing that I can do for free and not get drained from doing? Whatever it is, that is what you are passionate about. For example, if you are the person who can stay in the gym all day, not just working out but also helping people then that is the passion. You can become a personal trainer and maybe start your own fitness business. Because you are passionate about working out, you will become an expertise and be able to have a successful career.

I am a firm believer that God places something in each of us unique. Do not be afraid to persue your passion. Your passion is the key to unlocking your purpose which will lead to a fulfilling, happy life.

How To Get Tired of Regrets

Why did I eat that cheese cake? Why did I not go to the gym yesterday? I should have started reading that book. I wish I went to college. I wish I had not said that. I wish I had not spent that much money.
All of these are things are regrets that are said after making the wrong choice. I used to always wish I had done something the previous day, especially when I was in college. I wished I had read those chapters or I would regret not starting on my homework. This is procrastination, which leads to regret.

Get tired of regretting. Stop putting things off until the last minute. Go ahead and go to the gym. Don't eat the biggest piece of cake. Start the business of your dreams. Think about the consequences of not doing the things you want now.

Before I started writing this blog post I was battling with just laying around and watching television. I was thinking I just want to watch it all day and not do anything. However, I want a successful blog so I can help others. Well the blog is not going to get done by itself. I thought, well I can do it tomorrow but I had to be honest with myself. Tomorrow is Monday, I work full time, have a husband, kids and I workout; I am not going to have time tomorrow. Then I thought, what is the point of putting it off until tomorrow when I have all the time today. If I would have waited until tomorrow to write this post I would have regretted it. I am tired of regret. I want live without regret in my life, starting with the small things. No more regret. I want to say I did it yesterday and today I am moving on to the next, without regret.

Bullet Proof Your Marriage

The time of year when many vowels are being exchanged is here. Happily engaged couples are promising each other to be husband and wife, forever. In the their hearts they know they can spend the rest of their life with the person no matter what happens, at least until the it happens. Everyone expects their marriage to be bullet proof with out putting on a bullet proof vest there is nothing wrong with that but beware bullets will fly at your marriage. I am not talking about the prenuptual agreement which is something that bullet proofs the divorce. I am talking about something that will prevent ever needing a prenuptual agreement. It is know the roles of the husband and wife in the marriage. Every couple is different. In some marriages the husband handles the money better than wife and in others it is the opposite. Sometimes the husband can cook better than the wife so he should be responsible for the meals and maybe even grocery shopping. Yes, things happen and from time to time roles will have to be switched. However, an initial layout of roles and also boundaries could prevent a lot of arguements in the blissful years to come. A boundary, for example, could be set about the spouse going out with friends. It could be as small as never going to sleep with dirty dishes in the sink. It could be do not tell in-laws about everything that goes on in the house. It could be boundaries to how your spouse handles the opposite sex in situations. Boundaries are things to go over so that the spouse knows the limit to making the other ready to blow. It is a preventive measure. Boundaries will probably be broken and also change. Communication is key to when a boundary has to change. Do not expect the spouse to read your mind but communicate saying, "Honey you have crossed the boundary. Remember I do not like it when you make large purchases over $100.00 without telling me." Hopefully when the boundaries are set it will bring the couple close together. It will give them insight on what to expect from each other. The boundaries will prevent the first couple of years from being many misunderstandings. It will bullet proof the marriage.

Baggy Clothes

Baggy clothes are comfortable. Wearing them hides possible flaws that exist. They give curiosity to the outside about what is really going on. They are hard to get rid of because of the comfort they provide.

Baggy clothes are great but sometimes it is good to step out of the comfort zone. Try something a little more revealing that is not as comfortable. It will be uncomfortable at first but the new fit will eventually become comfortable. When that happens change it up again. Staying in a comfort zone can be hazardous. It will be staying stuck in the same place not knowing something out there is better. It is fear of the unknown.

Nothing better will come, nothing will change.Stepping out of the comfort zone is risky but without taking the risk how is there growth?

Do not be deceived by the comfort zone. Just because it is comfort does not mean that it is good for you. Baggy clothes can be annoying after a while. It is difficult to run fast and sometimes walk in a straight line. Baggy clothes require constant adjusting to make sure the clothes do not fall.You can not move freely in them. A person does not wear baggy clothes to work out in. The workout is not as beneficial because the clothes get in the way even though they are comfortable. Wearing fitted clothing while working out might be tight, maybe a little uncomfortable but the purpose will be fulfilled which is to have a good workout. As you can see, being uncomfortable is not always a bad thing. Being uncomfortable can push you to get to the next level. It will get you the results out of life you are looking. It is not always with the in crowd to be uncomfortable either but being a part of the in crowd all the time will get you no where. Step out of the comfort zone, lose the baggy clothes and go for some fitted ones to get your purpose done.